Friends
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May 19, 2011
With my personality, people are so important to me, but funnily enough friendships were hard for me when I was a kid and teenager. Despite my desire to have close friends and be a good friend, somehow it didn't always work out the way I had hoped.I had lots of friends, but struggled to find that "bestie". I watched other girls with their best friends and my heart hurt, because I wanted to be like them.
I met my husband when I was 15 and we've been together ever since. He became my "bestie" which is the way it should be in marriage, but because of that I didn't develop close friendships with other girls as much. I also had a super amazing friendship with my mom so I think I thought I was sorted in the friend department.
Now, don't get me wrong, I had lots of people who's friendships I enjoyed....I am really talking about those heart friendships that develop through time and energy being spent in sharing ones' lives together. I didn't have those relationships and moving into parenthood that became even more obvious as I was now at home and didn't have anyone to do anything with other than my mom. I had friends, but they either didn't have kids or the relationships were changing.
Then, God brought a young woman into my life who was 5 or 6 years younger than myself. I learned a lot about being a friend from her. I learned to share my life more openly, to reveal some of my "stuff" and to feel safe. That door opened wider in 2005 when another young woman came into my life...she was a lot younger than me, but for some reason God just melded our hearts and I opened my heart even more. Around the same time, I had a group of uni students I was spending time with and those girls became super precious to me. Even though I was their "leader", I learned so much from them and they made me feel like I finally had "girlfriends". Finally in my late 30's I had girlfriends. I had women that I could feel safe to share my heart with, to reveal more about myself, who loved me for who I was. WOW!!!
Now in my 40's I finally have a really close friend who is my own age....it's only taken me 30 years. HA!!. T is a treasure. She listens to me and let's me ramble and shares her life with me. I love it!!!! I actually feel like I have a sister for the first time in my life. YAY!!
I've learned a lot about friendship - to have friends, you need to be one. To invite confidences you need to confide and be trustworthy. You need to have fun together and have shared experiences and memories. I have learned so much from these wonderful ladies in my life....and from my super amazing mom and I am very thankful!!!! Love all of you - S, P, C, L, K, T and of course, Mom and B!!! edit
1 comment:
Awww I love this post! Yay for friends :) I also love that in your little blurb about yourself you said that you try to figure out the inner workings of you friends minds! Haha, made me laugh :)
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